Talking To Your Kids about Divorce

If you and your spouse decide to get a divorce, you might already know what a profound and devastating effect this can have on your children. Because kids have a difficult time understanding adult relationships, they may be confused as to why this is happening and if the event is because of something they did. Though this conversation is never an easy one to have with your child, it is imperative to communicate with them effectively in order to prevent rebellion or resentment down the road.

Divorce can be a tricky, complicated procedure that takes a lot of time and money to complete. It is especially hard trying to navigate this road alone in such a fragile emotional state. If you would like to seek legal representation with a compassionate, experienced attorney, contact the San Diego divorce lawyers of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP by calling 760-722-7646.

Important Conversation Tips

Even though this conversation might be daunting, there are a few tips a parent can employ in using the right language to speak openly and honestly with their children.

  • Ask them about how the divorce makes them feel and truly listen. Use emotion words that they are used to and ask them to explain how this process is affecting them.
  • Don't get upset if the child is angry with you. This is a natural response and it does not reflect on your abilities as a parent.
  • Reassure them that this is not their fault and that both parents still love them. Tell them that they did nothing wrong. This is one of the first concerns a child normally has.
  • Try to establish routine in their lives, despite the irregular circumstances.

These tips should help the entire family get through this troubling time. Understand that children do not understand the complexities of love or marriage and may need counseling to help deal with these sudden changes in their family life. Embrace the help of professionals as they are well-equipped in handling these issues.

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If you are looking to pursue a divorce and would like the help of an experienced lawyer, contact the San Diego divorce lawyers of Fischer & Van Thiel, LLP at 760-722-7646 today.

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